There is no feeling that compares to liking somebody but being too shy to say it. The fear of rejection is oftentimes the number one reason that prevents us from admitting our real feelings. But on the other hand, if you don’t tell someone that you like them, how will they know your real feelings and you wouldn’t know if they feel the same way.
Love is a confusing feeling sometimes that can take you to the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. But love is not without risking anything and if you don’t risk anything, you might not find true and real happiness.
You might be hesitant to show how you really feel but here are some way on how you can tell someone you like them without showing it:
1. Say HI!
It can be as simple as saying hi and acknowledging the person that you like. Saying hi to someone is the least intimidating thing that you can do. It is friendly and harmless but it opens up a lot of different opportunities that might come up in terms of your relationship with a specific person. People generally open up to people who are genuine and as long as you are very natural, your niceness will come across and make the other person remember you.
2. Go out of your way to make them feel special
If you like someone, you should go out of your way to make them feel special. You wouldn’t necessarily treat them the same way that you would treat your friends. Your actions might be subtle and small but the other person will certainly feel special when you start going out of your way.
Actions speak louder than words and actions are all that you can rely on especially if your words fail you or if you can’t find the right words to explain how you feel. A lot of people prefer actions of love and admiration as opposed to verbally telling somebody how you feel. People will also remember special actions or acts that you have done for them and they will appreciate you more.
3. Remember things that they tell you
This stems from being a good listener, if you make it a point or habit to remember things that this special someone tells you then you will understand them better. Your special someone will surely appreciate it if you remember small things about them.
I know from experience that I have been touched when people remember what I say or what I like, and that makes me feel so special.
If you remember things that they have mentioned in passing, this will boost the way they look at you and treat you because they might realize that there might be something in there that’s special.
4. Write them a letter
Sometimes it is better to put your feelings in writing as opposed to verbally telling it to the person you like. Writing a letter is better because at least you can articulate your feelings without seeing the other person’s reactions.
A letter will also enable you to practice what you have to say and you can edit the letter multiple times to make sure that the delivery is correct.
If you are not comfortable with your ability to write or put stuff in writing, you can get ideas from the internet or include a romantic quote or poem to express the way you’re feeling. It’s the thought that counts so even if you are borrowing somebody else’s words to convey how you are feeling, that is still valid and thoughtful.
5. Invite them in your plans
This might come off as a friendly gesture but you should start involving this special someone in your plans. Spending more time with somebody will enable you to get to know each other better even if it is a group setting.
Inviting them in your plans will let them know that you think spending time with them is precious and that you value their company.
Involving people in your plans might come off as a friendly gesture and might put you in the dreaded friend zone but the way you treat the other person will dictate and reflect how you feel about them. If the other person doesn’t realize that you are going out of your way to treat them specially, the people around that person will soon take notice.
6. Spend one on one time with them
Group settings are great for getting to know people but if you get the chance to spend individual time with the person you like, you should grab this opportunity! Having one on one time with a person will enable you to get to know them better and give them a chance to know you better too. One on one time doing an activity you like will let you both enjoy each other’s company.
If there’s a band that you both like or a movie that you both are interested in seeing, seize this opportunity to hang out and get to know each other better as friends. You can test the chemistry this way and see if it’s worth pursuing.
7. BE yourself!!
This is the best piece of advice that you can take on. If you are being yourself, people tend to gravitate towards you because they can tell that you are genuine and unique. You don’t have to go out of your way to impress somebody, just make sure that you are being yourself.
Remember that there is nobody else in the world like you! Being yourself can be attractive to some people and this is the best-case scenario because you don’t even have to pretend to be someone that you’re not.
Showing your true authentic self is a sign of confidence and confidence is sexy and attractive!