Even the great psychologist, Sigmund Freud, died with only one question in mind: “What do women want?”
Well, Mr. Freud, the answer is a no-brainer: We want to be loved. We want that “wake me up in the middle of the night just to tell me you love me” kind of love. We want you to know what’s wrong just by looking us in the eye. We want you to make us tea and braid our hair. We want endless cuddles and “scratch our backs till we fall asleep” kind of love.
So if you find your girlfriend giving you the death stare and punching holes in your sanity by giving you the silent treatment, then she’s mad at you. If you believe that your girl is mad at you all the time, just consider loving her in a way she wants to be loved.
In this article, we will give you clues as to why your girlfriend is always mad at you and how to behave in all possible scenarios.
1- You Broke The Trust
So you did something wrong a while ago and your girl said that she forgives you, and you think she’s moved on; in reality, she never did.
The sad reality is, trust is very fragile and once it’s broken it might never be the same way again.
Trust can be broken If your girlfriend caught you in a lie, or if you cheated on her, or if you shared something she told you in confidence, or if you behaved in a way she never thought you would.
For instance, your ex-girlfriend called you randomly and wanted to check up on you. You decide not to share this with your current girlfriend, not because you have feelings for the ex, but because you don’t want to rock the boat. You thought that by not telling her you would avoid creating a conflict.
One way or another, your girlfriend finds out and her mind instantly goes to a dark place. And even though you explain everything to her; she will never trust you the same way again.
2- You Rarely Initiate
If it seems like she’s the one always calling and she’s the one who is doing all the effort to make plans, then she’s going to be mad at you.
If there’s a thought bubble coming out from her brain it would say “my boyfriend takes me for granted and the relationship would die if I ever stop trying”.
To solve this problem, you can do the following:
- Call her more often and don’t wait for her to call.
- Make plans instead of just going along with what she planned.
- Take the lead every once in a while.
- Call that restaurant she’s been wanting to go to and make a reservation.
- Tell her you love her more often.
3- You’re Flaky
Did you forget to bring her something on your anniversary? Did you not make plans for her birthday? Did you flake out on a date? Is she still putting that plastic bucket under the sink because you said you were going to fix it, but you never did?
If you did any of the above, she’s always going to be mad at you! To her, you’re flaky and you’re a man of words and not actions. She will never believe it when you say that you will call her back, and she will never believe it when you say “I will do better next time”.
Please note that this will not happen over one night; this is the result of consistent flaking out and endless unkept promises.
To solve this, just try to keep your promises and simply don’t flake out on her!
4- She’s Giving Up On You
If she’s rolling her eyes at you, barely saying a word to you, and she’s easily irritated then she’s probably tired of your behaviors and thinks that talking to you is useless.
Your girlfriend is sick of having the same fight over and over again. Maybe you always put your work first, or maybe your family is giving her a rough time and you never take her side.
If there seems to be one fight that you’re always fighting about and if there are unresolved issues, she’s going to be mad at you!
Sit down with her and talk to her; work on your unresolved issues and give her the answers she deserves. Listen to what she has to say and try to make an actual change if you want to save your relationship.
5- She’s Jealous
When jealousy turns into anger, you’re in big trouble! Girls get jealous easily and they want to be the center of your attention at all times.
You can trigger jealousy by doing one of the following:
- Flirting with the waitress- even if it’s harmless.
- Complimenting another girl- even if it’s friendly.
- A girl is complimenting you.
- Your female coworker seems to be enjoying your company.
If you’re a player, she has every right to be jealous and to be mad at you. However, if you’re genuinely good to her, just try addressing this jealousy and reassure her insecurities. Let her know that she’s the only one for you!
6- You’re Not Romantic
You’re not romantic with your girl and it upsets her to see her friends and their boyfriends acting romantic. She’s mad because she’s comparing and contrasting other men’s gestures towards their girlfriend.
For instance, why is she the only one not getting flowers on Valentine’s day?
You can solve this problem by trying to bring more romance into the relationship. Surprise her with a weekend getaway, help her with chores when she’s tired, or cook for her a hearty dinner.
Pay attention to the small details, and don’t be afraid to make grand gestures. Do whatever you have to do to make her feel loved. Being romantic doesn’t require that much effort; you only have to be there for her and to make her feel like you would do anything for her!